Where in the world is that top hat?

Jun 12, 2022 | 9 comments

Sydney and Nyel (in top hat) Croquet Gala 1985

Miki came over from Astoria this morning bringing coffees and good energy and her usual practical words of wisdom!  I had asked her if she would help me pack of Nyel’s clothes for the Good Will.  “Sure!  When would be a good time?” was her always willing response.

We sipped our coffees and visited a bit and then got to work.  She had brought about a gazillion banana boxes for us to fill.  Meanwhile, I had called Rita and asked her if the Players would be interested in Nyel’s tux and cut-away and, also, his fencing togs and épée.  And maybe a hat or two.  “Yes!” was her response!  “those are ‘costume’ items and would definitely be a great addition to our costume collection.”  Nyel would be so pleased.

Sydney and Nyel (in top hat) Oysterville Sesquicentennial, 2004

I set aside a couple of shirts I think I’ll wear around the house now and then.  For warmth — of my soul, if not my body.  Cate came by and I offered her a shirt or two and a Levi jacket, too.  And Miki chose a few items she thought her husband would enjoy.  !

“Does it have to be Good Will?” she asked.   “There is a thrift store in…” But yes.  Nyel was all about the Good Will — he often looked for specific things there and that was always his go-to donation place.  Yes, it had to be Good Will.
As Miki left, Cate opened her laptop to go over Nyel’s obituary with me.  And her column which will be devoted (mostly) to him next week.  I didn’t cry.  Not then.

9 Comments

  1. Deborah L Wells

    Love the top hat photo! Cute couple! Deb

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    • sydney

      It all seems so long ago and so short ago!
      Sydney

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  2. Deborah L Wells

    Love the top hat photo! Cute couple dancing! Deb

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  3. Rita Smith

    Nyel’s spirit will grace the stage at Rive City Playhouse in future productions! Thank you so much for thinking of us.

    Peninsula Players thanks you!

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    • sydney

      He would be so pleased, Rita, to think that some of his “costumes” might fill the bill in one of your productions!
      Sydney

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  4. Cate Gable

    I wore one of Nyel’s shirts over my T around the house yesterday after our lunch. I chose the one with the worn collar and the funny small missing button. I did cry then.

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    • sydney

      He’d be amazed. And touched. On all counts!
      Hugs, Sydney

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  5. Cassy Espy

    Hi Sydney,

    When John died, I found it comforting to wear his sweaters, a jacket, a stickpin or two. I still wear his jewelry 17 years later.

    I don’t have much wisdom to offer, but you have enough of that for all of us. So I send you bunches of warm hugs and love instead. I’d give anything to deliver them in person. Thinking of you, Sydney.

    XXXOOO Cass

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    • sydney

      You, my dearest Cuzz Cass, are one of the wisest women I know! I so appreciate all your sustaining notes and messages during this difficult time. If only you were nearer…
      Love, Sydney

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