Joe Krysowaty, where are you?

Jul 23, 2022 | 3 comments

Joe’s Postcard

Two, maybe three, times a year a card comes addressed to our post office box to Nyel and me — with both names spelled correctly!  It is always a parallel universe postcard — we don’t even have to read the message to know that it’s from our friend Joe Krysowaty.  Maybe they are drawn by Joe, himself.  We’ve never been sure and there seems no way to ask.

At the crux of the problem: we lost track of Joe years ago and there is no return address.  His latest card came just this past week, addressed to both Nyel and me and it begins, as always, Greetings from PortlandHoping you are both healthy & happy…

Cutthroat Croquet Time!

We first met Joe in 1992 when he came to our 9th Annual Croquet and Champagne Gala as guests of my cousin Alice Sibley.  With Joe was his friend Ernie Nazario and their wives (who were sisters) Kate and Sarah Enroth.  The four came to almost every Croquet Gala after that and were on the winning teams in 1992, 1993, 1996, 1998, 1999, and 2000.  They called themselves “The Contenders” and the years they didn’t take first place were usually years they decided not to play.

Early on, they asked us if they could hold a “Cutthroat Croquet Game” right after play was ended for the day but before the Awards Ceremony had begun.  It became an annual event in its own right — a no-holds-barred, bribe-the-judges and every-player-out-for-himself sort of game that raised additional money for the  charity of the day.  It was wildly popular.

Back In The Day

2000 was the last year of croquet but not the last year we saw Joe — or at least I don’t think so.  I have a dim memory that he came to see Nyel at Emanuel Hospital the Christmas we learned that Nyel had congestive heart failure.  But, honestly…  I’m no longer sure.

What I am sure of is that we have loved getting Joe’s cards and I would give almost anything to be able to tell him that Nyel and I spoke of him (of them, really) often.  Of course, I want to tell him that Nyel is no longer with us but, even more, I want Joe to know how much pleasure he has given us both over the years with his cards — for, of course, with every card came a whole host of fabulous memories.  Thanks, Joe.  I’ll keep on looking for you!


  1. Caroline Miller

    Being enchanted by your recollection and snoopy, I googled him but came up empty. Let the mystery continue.

  2. Rosemary Hickman

    Check your messages. I think I found him!

    • sydney

      My fingers are crossed!


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