Posts Tagged ‘“Dear Medora’

Is it ever too late to eat crow?

Wednesday, May 22nd, 2013

Book Cover for Dear MedoraThe other day Nyel came home from Physical Therapy with the news that there is another writer ‘out there’ named Sydney Stevens who lives in either California or somewhere on the East Coast.  A friend of Victoria’s (the Queen of PT on the Long Beach Peninsula) is reading a book by her (or possibly, him).

So, I Googled Sydney (and Sidney) Stevens (and Stephens) in various combinations, but didn’t come up with the right (write) person.  There are several of us who share this name and who surface when Googled – among them a singer from Los Angeles, a physician from Palm Desert – but no other writer that I could find.

However, I did find several sites about myself that weren’t on the web the last time I checked.  (If you’ve never Googled yourself, it’s an interesting experience.  It’s a little bit like listening to gossip about yourself; sometimes you’d like to correct ‘the record’ but you realize the futility of such an endeavor.)  Most interesting was a review of my 2007 book, Dear Medora on a site called “Book This” which bills itself as “Assisting Northwest authors, book stores, libraries and book clubs to promote and interact with people who love to read.”

The review was fabulous – the best I’ve ever seen!  It was posted on March 4th of this year purports to have come from Coast Weekend.  If it’s the freebie insert Coast Weekend that comes with every week’s Chinook Observer, I certainly missed the review the first time around.  In any case, I commend it to my readers and fans.  It can be found at:  http://bookthis.eomediagroup.org/2013/03/04/book-reivew-oysterville-author-resurrects-a-slice-of-local-history/

Medora in Portland circa 1915The part of the review that especially caught my eye was the next-to-last sentence of the final paragraph:  Ask the author and she will speak to that strange relationship that often skips the natural arbitration of time to bind distant people together.  Certainly this is the case for Stevens.  She is more than a caretaker of family memorabilia.  She has brought back beloved Medora.  Getting to know the young lady is the greatest strength of the book.  Stevens has brought us home to a goodness so often lost or overlooked in the current charge of modernism.  This book is a must for teenagers.  For the rest of us, it is a joyful rendezvous with our pioneer ancestors,

It is the “teenagers” comment that strikes a resounding chord for me.  When WSU Press was planning their initial marketing strategy for Dear Medora, they suggested that it should be presented as a book for Teens or Young Adults.  I adamantly (and, in retrospect, no doubt wrongly) insisted that it be marketed for the general reading public.

Dear Medora has been anything but a run-away best seller.  I wonder if things might have been different if I hadn’t been so headstrong.  And is it way too late to be eating crow?

Dreams, Choices, Bottom Lines

Friday, April 19th, 2013

1975, Nov. 24, Publicity Shot for Words at PlayYesterday’s mail brought the unwelcome news that my book about Willard Espy “in its current form is not one that fits the current WSU Press publishing goals.”  The letter, while disappointing in the extreme, contained good news as well as bad.  Or at least it seemed so to me.

Editor Robert Clark went on to say, “What you have given us is a charming, personal history of the Espy family and the town of Oysterville, with Willard at the center of the story.”  YES!  I’m so glad they ‘got’ that!  That was the point of the book.

In fact, Mr. Clark’s description is a very succinct version of what I, myself, had written in my initial proposal to WSU Press:  “Espy’s Own: Willard of Oysterville” is part biography, part memoir, part recollection and part historical narrative.  It is the story of author Willard Richardson Espy’s relationship to Oysterville, the tiny southwest Washington village where he grew up in the early decades of the twentieth century and where he was to spend many of the most important intervals of his next 88 years.

Book Cover for Dear MedoraMy intent (and the main reason for submitting the book to this particular publisher) was to write Willard’s biography in such a way that it would become a companion piece to Dear Medora:  Child of Oysterville’s Forgotten Years.  That book was published by WSU Press in 2007.  Unfortunately, it has sold sparingly; it hasn’t flown off the shelves.  It is definitely a “niche book” and, no doubt, was an unusual choice for an academic press.  Perhaps the fact that they had a different editor then had bearing on that decision.

According to reviewers, the charm of Dear Medora is its personal touch.  It gives readers an insider’s view of the Espy family and of Oysterville in the early twentieth century.  Ironically, this was at the heart of Mr. Clark’s objection to the manuscript about Willard:  “These personal memories, combined with family stories and excerpts from family correspondence, have a rather narrow focus, and no doubt would be of most interest to family and friends.”

He goes on to suggest that I consider rewriting the book along the lines of a “more traditional biography” or, barring that choice, to look at the possibility of self-publishing.  Or, as a third alternative, he says, WSU could serve as a “book packager” providing “editing, design, layout, and production services, and deliver to you any number of books you wish to distribute.”

Of course, the bottom line is money.  If Dear Medora had made more money for them… If marketing and distribution weren’t so spendy… If I had the financial ability to self-publish a book with the look and feel I envision… Or, I could bite the bullet and rewrite.

Perhaps my thoughts will clarify as my disappointment dissipates…

Instead of stewing, I should’ve known…

Sunday, April 14th, 2013

Award Ceremony Yesterday I had the pleasure of being the keynote speaker at an awards ceremony honoring twenty-six students from our two local school districts – Ocean Beach and Naselle-Grays River Valley.  The event is an annual one sponsored by the Masons.  The students, two from each fourth through eighth grade class in our area, were chosen by their teachers and principals for consistently demonstrating “Excellence in Citizenship.”

I was the speaker by default.  The gentleman who called me a month or so ago said that their first choice had cancelled for health reasons and since “everybody” knows me (YIKES!) would I please agree.  I demurred and refused but he was persuasive.  “Just talk for five or ten minutes about citizenship…”

Citizenship?  For nine to thirteen-year-olds?  I stewed about what to say every single day for a month.  I talked to some teacher friends to get their ideas.  I researched student citizenship on the internet.  I talked to some of the teachers who had actually selected the award winners and asked what criteria they used.

It wasn’t until Friday morning – the very day before the event – that I realized that I had the perfect message for those kids and for their parents and grandparents and friends.  I even had a little ‘show and tell.’

All my research and everyone I spoke with had used the term “role model.”  One of the characteristics and responsibilities of good citizen students is that they are role models for their peers, everyone said.  In one of those ‘aha!’ moments, I realized that when I was twelve I, too, had a role model.  She was my mother’s oldest sister, an aunt that I had never met.  But when I discovered her diary (written in 1914 when she was 15), Medora changed the course of my life forever.

Book Cover for Dear MedoraSo I talked a bit about Medora – the kind of girl she was.  And I talked about how she influenced me, not just in my behavior, but in very concrete ways.  She had wanted to go to Stanford and to become a teacher.  She never had the opportunity to carry out those dreams but, though I didn’t consciously connect my choices to Medora, it was I who went to Stanford and it was I who became the teacher.

And, of course, I eventually wrote Dear Medora, Child of Oysterville’s Forgotten Years.  I had the book with me and read an excerpt from that first diary I had found when I was twelve.  “And so,” I told those twenty-six good citizens, “you never know how you will end up influencing others or making a difference…”

One of the teachers emailed me last night that my message was “spot on!”  I thought so, too, and was once again reminded to write and speak about what I know best.  Apparently it’s a lesson I have to relearn periodically.

Oh For Heaven’s Sake, Mrs. Crouch!

Thursday, February 7th, 2013

Lost ClippersSome days it seems that we spend an inordinate amount of time looking for things – the car keys, my camera, a coffee cup, Nyel’s checkbook.  We fault ourselves for being overly busy or having too many things on our aging minds.  We try to remember to return things to their proper locations so they will be readily available but it is a never-ending battle.

In our house, of course, we also have to contend with our resident ghost, Mrs. Crouch.  Mostly, she gets blamed for things that simply disappear for good.  My grandmother’s doll, Myrtle, for instance, comes to mind.  In my Dear Medora book I wrote:

FlirtMona’s doll, “Little Flirt,” given to her by Mama’s friend Jenny, sits placidly beside Myrtle, the doll that was Mama’s a generation earlier.  Both of these long-time members of the family have been enjoyed by many Espy girls over the years.  Though Flirt and Myrtle had to be re-strung recently, and though they have been re-clothed many times, their soft bisque complexions and bright glass eyes are as lovely as ever.  Even now I retain my little girl fantasy that, if only my hearing were a little more acute, they could share stories with me of their long-ago adventures.   

When my editor asked for pictures of Little Flirt and Myrtle, only Flirt was to be found in the doll cabinet.  No Myrtle.  We searched in every closet, every box, every nook and cranny for her, all without result.  That was seven years ago and she has not yet shown herself.  Mrs.Crouch is the only explanation.

And now, I think, Mrs. C. has a new trick. Last October, when I was doing a final Fall Cleanup in the garden, I lost my clippers.  I looked in all the places that I had been working and all the other areas, as well.  They had simply evaporated.  But, yesterday, there they were!  Right in the area I was working.  Not so strange, really.  I had simply overlooked them, or so I have tried to convince myself.

However, they were right in the area that I walk every morning and every evening on my way to deal with the chickens.  I’ve walked by that patch of lawn adjacent to our bed of Black-eyed Susans dozens, if not scores, of times since those clippers disappeared.  They simply have not been there… until yesterday!

So now it seems that Mrs. Crouch is returning items that she has borrowed.  I almost feel that she is chiding me a bit for ignoring the garden during these winter months.  Very annoying.  And, if she’s going to be returning things, I wish she’d get my priorities straight!  Myrtle would definitely be at the top of the list. Then that checkbook of Nyel’s.  And, while she’s at it, how about those gold nuggets of my grandfather’s that used to be in his desk.

Okay.  Okay.  Just kidding about the gold.  I made that up.  But, garden clippers?  Very funny, Mrs. C!

Shop ’til You Drop? Not!

Tuesday, November 27th, 2012

When I was a child, we counted the days until Santa would arrive.  By the time I had children of my own, the media was letting us know how many shopping days we had until Christmas.  Nowadays we are besieged by news of “Black Friday” and “Cyber Monday” and this very morning my computer tells me it’s “Cyber Tuesday.”

I feel battered by the onslaught and even a bit belittled – as in why do ‘they’ keep on about all the wonderful products I should/could/would be buying if I were like everyone else.  My mother’s oft-used expression, “If only I had the wherewithal to do all the above things…” comes to mind.  But, in actuality, even if I had the kind of disposable income that the media says ‘everyone’ is spending, I doubt if I would change my ways.

Like many of my generation, I grew up in the era that truly believed “it’s the thought that counts” when it came to gift giving.  Our shopping sprees happened, not before Christmas, but before school began in the fall and we were buying what was needed in the way of clothing for the coming school year.  Any other shopping was done on an ‘as needed’ basis and after considerable patching and repairing and re-making had already transpired.

In those days, the word “consumerism” (that seems to be the current buzz-word and ultimate measuring stick of economic prosperity) still referred to “advocacy of the rights and interests of consumers” which had been its definition since it was invented (do you invent words?) in 1915.  The current meaning of consumerism, at least according to Wikipedia, is “a social and economic order that encourages the purchase of goods and services in ever-greater amounts.”

I often remind myself of my grandmother’s words to her eldest daughter in 1915: We must make the best of things as they are this Christmas and enjoy the spirit of the day, overlooking the lack of material things.  Certainly, words to live by in this household, even today.  I wonder if my grandmother would have felt a bit depressed, as I do, if she had been besieged by the intrusions of radio and television and cyberspace?

Planning for Spring

Sunday, November 11th, 2012

They say we’re to expect a storm later today with gale-force winds by evening.  Yesterday, though, it was bright and crisp – a good day for working outside.  I worked on winterizing; Nyel prepared a bed for planting bulbs.  I wondered briefly, as I was cutting back the dried stalks of Shasta daisies and he was thinking about daffodils, if that was a metaphor for our personalities:  I looking back; Nyel planning ahead.  Not a bad combination…

I was also thinking a bit about my mom’s birthday which is coming up on the thirteenth.  She would have been 101 had she lived four years longer. Curious about what was going on in Oysterville in the days before her birth, I looked in Dear Medora and found this entry for November 11, 1911:

Dear Mama,

  I received your letter today.

The snow gets deeper every minute.  It hasn’t drifted a bit.  It is about 2 1/2 inches thick.  George K. hitched Charlie to Mr. Kistemaker’s sled and we rode up and down the plank walk and when George went back to the ranch to put Charlie up I hauled the children (Sue, Mona and Gladys) up and down the street.  I haven’t snow balled all day.

Willard can really, truly crawl.  He can say “bath,” “by by,” “Papa,” “Mama,” and tries to say “bottle.”  He was eleven months old today.  Willard wears that stocking leg, knit waist length leggins and that new sweater and that bear skin coat. He loves the music rack.

  Mr. Kistemaker has fixed the stalls in the barn across the street and put the colts and Dolly in there and he has the other horses in the big barn at the ranch.  He gave the cows turnips.

 I can’t bring sand from the beach until the snow stops.

Medora was twelve and was here in Oysterville.  My grandmother (who was thirty-three) was in Olympia awaiting the birth of her seventh child who turned out to be my mother.  Both my mother and Willard were born in our State Capitol because of the proximity of doctors (unlike Oysterville) and because my grandfather was in the Senate and so they lived there part-time in those years.

There are several references in Medora’s letter worth noting.  The first, of course, is her commentary on the weather.  I do remember once about forty years ago when it snowed over Thanksgiving vacation but ususally these days we expect rainstorms not snowstorms.  Global Warming and Climate Change for sure – which is underscored by references to the horses (Charlie, for one, and Dolly),  It would be a number of years before automobiles and carbon emissions outnumbered horses and fresh fertilizer here in Oysterville.

The other reference which is interesting to me is about bringing sand from the beach.  The beach refers to the bayshore in front of Oysterville which, in my mother’s childhood (and partly in mine, too) was a wide, sandy swath.  Nowadays of course, it is a saltwater marsh, all a-tangle with pickleweed and salt grass.

Mama had asked Medora in a previous letter to take the wheelbarrow to the beach and get clean sand to put in the woodshed so that the little children would have an ‘outside’ play area during the winter.  The window above the kitchen sink looked out into the woodshed so she could keep an eye on their activities.  Smart woman – definitely one who looked ahead, at least as far as the seasons went.

Lovely Little Linda

Tuesday, July 17th, 2012

Last week my new friend Linda came calling.  She arrived at my door wearing a bright pink hat and new pink shoes to match.  She brought with her a copy of Dear Medora and her Grandma Stephanie.  Shyly she asked for my autograph.

Linda has just completed second grade.  She and I have met on several occasions, the most memorable being when she was here at a House Concert and accidentally locked herself in the bathroom.  I was called to the rescue and Linda and I became acquainted through the door which turned out to be more stuck than locked.  Nevertheless, I was the heroine of the moment and it’s always nice to be a heroine.

According to her grandmother, Linda has recently become quite interested in history.  She likes visiting museums and asks lots of questions about when long-ago things happened.  On a visit to the Columbia Pacific Heritage Museum last week she spied some of my books and decided that Dear Medora was the one for her. She might be my youngest fan and I was thrilled to write in her book.

As we talked, I mentioned that she would recognize some of the pictures in the book – things that she had seen in the house – and right away she found a photograph of the old clock perched on the mantle just a few feet away from where we were sitting.  I thought we might look through the pages for other nearby objects – a treasure hunt of sorts – but instead we turned to the subject of shoes.

“They twirl,” she said when I admired her new pink ones.  And she pointed out the round “twirly thing” on the sole of her left shoe.

“Show me,” I said, and we went out onto the wooden porch and Linda twirled.  Wow!  I have yet to recover from shoes that light up at every step.  And now they twirl almost all by themselves.  I was impressed.

We talked about how they would work with her twirly skirt (which I haven’t seen but have heard about.)  And, as we said our “goodbyes” and “come-agains,” I thought about the part of teaching that I miss the most – kids!   Kids that are just about Linda’s age and are just beginning to understand the world before and beyond themselves.  Kids that have new pink twirly shoes and maybe a missing tooth or two.

I do hope lovely little Linda comes calling next time she visits Grandma Stephanie.

Beautiful Katie and the future of Oysterville!

Saturday, July 7th, 2012

Hal Buttrell is among our Friday Night Irregulars, though he is more regular than most.  Since Diane (his other half) often works on Friday nights, Hal comes by himself.  He always brings an appetizer – usually one that he has concocted on his own and we have found him to be an imaginative chef, especially with regard to stuffed mushrooms.

            Last night Hal brought his signature dish plus a wonderful surprise visitor – his beautiful granddaughter, Katie.  If we were told her Asian name, I’ve already forgotten, but I do remember that it means “beauty and wealth.”  It’s readily apparent that the first part of the meaning is true.

            The reason that Hal brought her along tickled me immensely.  He said that he had read my blog about neighbor Fred getting Dear Medora books for all his granddaughters and that he, Hal, didn’t want to be outdone – or words to that effect.  Actually, he said he’d been thinking for quite awhile about getting one of the books for Katie and yesterday’s timing seemed perfect.

Katie is ten.  I’m pretty sure she is a good reader and a good student but, as I told her, I’m not certain that Dear Medora will be one of those books that grabs her attention and won’t let it go.  I suggested that she read a bit at a time and, when she’s visiting her grandparents, come by and talk to me about it.  She was already thumbing through the pages, looking at the photographs and noticing things in the room that are pictured in the book – the tea cart, the library corner etc.

All in all, I was absolutely delighted with the turn of Friday Night events on many levels!  First, I loved meeting Katie and I hope we can get to know each other better.  Second, it was an unexpected indicator that my blog might be ‘working.’  (My original intent in writing a daily blog was to raise my profile for the purpose of selling books.  But I never expected such a direct cause/effect to occur.)

But mostly, Katie’s visit reinforced the growing assurance that Oysterville’s future will be in good hands.  The parents and grandparents of our community are ‘passing the torch’ and I’m delighted that Medora and I can be a part of that process!  Long may it continue!

 

A Bevy of Beauties

Friday, July 6th, 2012

Four beautiful young girls, all with lovely names – Sofia, Athena, Phoebe, and Frances – came calling yesterday afternoon.  They had each been given a Dear Medora book and they had come to get an autograph.

It was Fred Accuardi, our Red Cottage neighbor, who is grandfather to Sofia and long-time ‘might-as-well-be-grandpa’ to the other three, who had presented them with the books that very morning.  Fred had told me long ago about purchasing the books for them.  He said he was just waiting for the perfect occasion to make his gift.  The girls were all in town for the holiday so the moment had arrived!

I took the four of  them on a quick tour of the house, pointing out some of the places and things they would ‘meet’ in the book – a sort of first-hand orientation to Medora’s world.  I suggested that they come back after they’ve finished reading so we can talk a bit about the girl that was just about their age a hundred years ago.

Two of the girls were sixteen – the age Medora was toward the end of the book.  Two of them were twelve, the age I was when I discovered her diary in one of the drawers in an upstairs bedroom.  It was that discovery that led me to write her story more than forty years later.

Shortly before Dear Medora was published, the marketing folks at WSU Press suggested that the book be aimed at teens and young adults.  I discouraged that idea, thinking (probably wrongly) that is was more suited to adults.  I will be very interested to see if my four young visitors do, indeed, read the book and, if so, what they think about it,

Whether or not they follow up about the book, I’m looking forward to getting better acquainted with them.  The parents of two of them are the new owners of the Captain Stream House and the erstwhile Oysterville Guest House.  I wish them all a long and fulfilling association with Oysterville.

In the Eye of the Beholder

Tuesday, May 15th, 2012

The H.A. Espys, 1904

     My grandmother’s letters to her children (written almost one hundred years ago) are sprinkled with comments like:  Be sure not to sit up late.  With all the afternoon at your disposal you should always be in bed by 9:30 and Be careful of your health.  You must not neglect Grippe and develop pneumonia.
     It is those kind of remarks that give me a picture of day-to-day concerns and thoughts of the era in which my mother and her siblings grew up.   Those gentle admonitions and bits of advice offer an intimate look at family relationships of the last century.  It’s the kind of ‘history’ I most enjoy and why I based my Dear Medora book, on the correspondence between my grandmother and her oldest daughter.
     I was, therefore, a bit taken aback a few years ago when an acquaintance who had just read the book asked me, “Did you know your grandmother?”
    “Yes, very well,” I responded.  “She didn’t die until I was in college.”
     “Was she always so bossy?”
     “Bossy?!  Not at all.  She was a gentle sort of person.  I would never consider her bossy,” I said.
     “Oh,” was the response, “she always seemed to be telling Medora what to do – not to forget her umbrella or to spend more time studying or…”
     I’m afraid I became rather snappish at that point.  “I guess I just call that good parenting,” I said.
     Variations on that conversation have come up since, most recently after my “Author! Author!” presentation on Mother’s Day.  A few of the audience members and I talked about the differences in how children are brought up today.  One person referred to today’s parenting-style-of-choice as “The Discovery Method” as compared to “The Guidance Method” of past years.
     Perhaps each has its merits.  The discussion led, of course, to whether or not children need boundaries or just a safety net and how we perceive the role of adults in our fast-moving society.  It was one of those never-ending sorts of discussions and I’m sure it will come up again.  (And, I might add – Dear Medora may not be on any best seller lists, but I consider it a total success as long it continues to provoke such thoughts.)