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Sharing a Ride through Oysterville

Thursday, April 18th, 2013

Riding through Oysterville 2013 As I stood at the gate talking with my neighbor Tucker the other afternoon, we heard the clip-clop of horse hooves coming up the street.  Our conversation stopped and we both turned, watching and waiting.  I’m sure we were both smiling.  Such a familiar, though infrequent, sound in Oysterville can’t help but gladden the heart.

Just as it’s been a long, long time since there were enough kids in town to keep the schoolhouse open, it’s been fifty years or so since almost every family had a horse or two.  In those days, the horses were for the kids of the family.  Fifty years prior to that, of course, families had horses mainly for transportation purposes — but for kids, too, as one of our hundred-year-old photos of the Espy children shows.Espy Children 1913

As the horse approached, we greeted the riders – two girls who, it turned out, were riding through Oysterville ‘on their own’ for the first time.  The horse, “a purebred thoroughbred” had been a present to the girl handling the reins – for her thirteenth birthday, she told us.  She had ridden through town several times before with her mom but now she had permission to be on her own.

The horse, it turned out, would be thirteen, too, in May.  “She was a brood mare,” we were told, “and now she is retired.  Some of her foals have become champions.”  The birthday girl didn’t think she would continue breeding the horse but… “maybe.”

She said she lives nearby and we said we hoped we’d see her riding through Oysterville often throughout the summer.  “Oh, you will,” she assured us.  Nyel came out of the house about then and joined us.  He greeted the horse owner by name – one the perks of working as a substitute teacher is knowing the kids of the area – and joined the conversation.

Soon, girls and horse continued on their way.  By then, we were all smiling – probably even the horse!   Another neighborly interlude in Oysterville!

Back to the Future

Sunday, January 20th, 2013

2nd Grade PaintingJPGFrank Wolfe and Kathleen Sayce came through our door Friday evening looking like the proverbial cats who had swallowed those unfortunate mice.  “We have a presentation to make to Sydney,” Frank announced.  And from behind his back he pulled a large kid’s painting that I hadn’t seen for almost twenty years.

The 18×24 inch painting, still attached to its black construction paper mat was adorned with a second place ribbon from the Pacific County Fair.  On the reverse side was a label:  “Name: Lindsay Newell; Grade: 2nd; Teacher: Sydney Stevens.”  It had come from Mary Newell’s Garage Sale.

“It’s Mr. Fireplug Man,” Jon Ducharme said. And everyone laughed.

But I knew better.  It was a painting Lindsay had done during an intensive study of space – a spacemom and her offspring, as I recall.  We had learned about the planets and the constellations, about astronauts and space exploration.  We had learned songs about space and even a “moon dance.”  We culminated our six weeks of study by making our own “spacesuits” and doing a safety test of our carefully engineered space capsules.

2nd Grade Astronaut The spacesuits involved moon boots (made with many, many newspapers and rolls of masking tape), an EMU – Extravehicular Mobility Unit – backpack (cereal boxes and scads of aluminum foil) and, of course, a protective space helmet (large paper bag) generously adorned with “official” space stickers and I.D. badges.  For homework, each student engineered a “safe” container into which they placed a raw egg.

On the ‘Big Day’ the student astronauts donned their spacesuits and moonwalked into the gym where parents, grandparents and the rest of the school watched their proud presentation.  Afterwards, we adjourned to the front lawn and held our collective breaths as custodian Dan Gove gently tossed the “space capsules,” one-by-one, from his perch on the roof.

“Will my capsule make it?  Will my egg survive?” were the questions in every astronaut/engineer’s mind.  The eggs were nested and swaddled into materials ranging from Styrofoam popcorn to wads of Kleenex or tissue paper.  Some were actually strapped into their containers.  Most survived.  A few didn’t and I remember being surprised by some tears that first year.  (The next time I did that learning unit, I prepped the astronauts more thoroughly with regard to possible mission failure.)

My thoughts continued to soar and I had to make a conscious effort to get myself back to the here-and-now of Friday night.  Talk about “spacing out!”  Thanks to Frank and Kathleen (to say nothing of Lindsay and Mary) I had enjoyed a little moonwalk of my own.

Trick or Treat (or Trauma?)

Wednesday, October 31st, 2012

Even though I look back on the Halloweens of my childhood with a sort of nostalgic glow, I can’t really think of much I enjoyed about the holiday.  Those were the days of dressing up and going around the neighborhood trick-or-treating with a group of also-costumed friends.  And, since I lived in Alameda, California (where there were real neighborhoods with blocks and sidewalks), we did actually go door-to-door to the homes of people who we more-or-less knew.  In fact, as far as I can remember, we were unaccompanied by an adult.

First of all, there was the angst of “what to be.”  I don’t remember ever having a store-bought costume.  (Were there such things in the 1940s?)  So it was always a matter of what you could do with a sheet or one of your mother’s cast-offs waiting to be remade into its next incarnation.  I can’t recall any of my costumes until I reached the gypsy stage which must have been in my pre-teen years.  By then, the makeup and jewelry made all difference!

Then, there were the “scary” houses – mostly old Victorians (like ours now) with one or two elderly occupants (like us now) and sometimes a ‘mean’ dog.  The dogs, of course, played with us in the bright light of non-Halloween days, but became menacing on that particular night every year.

We always took a piece of soap with us just in case someone refused to put a treat in our proffered bag.  That never happened that I remember but I still feel guilty that we soaped the windows of people who had the audacity not to be at home.  I do remember the thrill of dumping all those treats out on the dining room table later and being especially excited about any pennies or nickels among them.  The candy was doled out in my lunch box every day for weeks and the coins were mine to do with as I pleased.

I don’t think I got an allowance in those days – just a dime each Sunday to put in the collection basket at church.  Having my own money was a Big Deal.  I probably spent it right away – I never have been very good at saving.  However, the angel that has graced the top of our Christmas Tree for the past 70 years was purchased with squirrelled-away coins that could have been from Halloween.  I think she cost 29 cents at the Variety Store around the corner on Encinal Avenue.

I don’t recall going to any Halloween parties in those early days.  Not until I was in high school.  That was traumatic, too.  I hated all those games – bobbing for apples and pinning the tail on the black cat.  It always seemed to me that I was a total klutz and struggling with clothespins and bottles or eggs and spoons just gave everyone a chance to laugh at me.  (I felt that way at birthday parties, too.)

Although we were a family that posed for lots of pictures, there are none of me in my Halloween regalia.  I do have one of my son, though, taken in 1963 when he was seven.  He was dressed as a scarecrow and was on his way to a party down the street.  His costume involved a broomstick stuck through the arms of an old jacket (along with his own arms, of course) with bits of straw sticking out around his hands.

The expression on his face tells the whole story.  I can scarcely look at those sad eyes.  I don’t remember that he protested but, in later years, he has said how uncomfortable he was and how humiliated he felt when he had to ask his friend’s mother (the hostess) to take his costume apart so he could use the bathroom.  Surely that year it was “Trick and Trauma” not “Trick or Treat”…

The Handoff

Tuesday, August 28th, 2012

  These days, one of the topics of conversation among us of the older generation concerns the village children and grandchildren.  Most of them, of course, live elsewhere, but in the summertime, especially, they come to Oysterville.  They come to play, to visit grandparents and, sometimes to get married.  It is gratifying to all of us, even those without grandchildren, that family connections with Oysterville endure.

I sometimes wonder if my own grandparents would have shared that thought.  They were of the generation that wanted their children to ‘expand their horizons’ by leaving the peninsula.  They felt there wasn’t a future here for them and, in those days, that was probably true.  On the other hand, their old age revolved around letters from their children and the infrequent visits of their grandchildren.

Getting here in the 1940s and 1950s, especially from California (where I was) or New York (where my first cousins lived) was something of an ordeal.  Visits tended to be infrequent but for long periods of time.  I was lucky to come every summer and even luckier to be here for a full year during seventh grade.  Oysterville and I bonded.

Most of today’s younger Oysterville generation live closer – in Portland or Seattle – and, of course, getting here is far easier.  There are now real highways and bridges and cars that don’t boil over on the KM Hill.  Kids come frequently, even in the winter, and they, too, are bonding.  Some households are into the fifth generation of kids absorbing the magic of Oysterville.

In fact, almost half of the residences here in the National Historic District belong to folks who had childhood connections to the village.  It’s nice to know that our parents knew one another – sometimes even our grandparents and great-grandparents.  And, it seems as though the handoff to the next generations will continue for a long time to come.

Lovely Little Linda

Tuesday, July 17th, 2012

Last week my new friend Linda came calling.  She arrived at my door wearing a bright pink hat and new pink shoes to match.  She brought with her a copy of Dear Medora and her Grandma Stephanie.  Shyly she asked for my autograph.

Linda has just completed second grade.  She and I have met on several occasions, the most memorable being when she was here at a House Concert and accidentally locked herself in the bathroom.  I was called to the rescue and Linda and I became acquainted through the door which turned out to be more stuck than locked.  Nevertheless, I was the heroine of the moment and it’s always nice to be a heroine.

According to her grandmother, Linda has recently become quite interested in history.  She likes visiting museums and asks lots of questions about when long-ago things happened.  On a visit to the Columbia Pacific Heritage Museum last week she spied some of my books and decided that Dear Medora was the one for her. She might be my youngest fan and I was thrilled to write in her book.

As we talked, I mentioned that she would recognize some of the pictures in the book – things that she had seen in the house – and right away she found a photograph of the old clock perched on the mantle just a few feet away from where we were sitting.  I thought we might look through the pages for other nearby objects – a treasure hunt of sorts – but instead we turned to the subject of shoes.

“They twirl,” she said when I admired her new pink ones.  And she pointed out the round “twirly thing” on the sole of her left shoe.

“Show me,” I said, and we went out onto the wooden porch and Linda twirled.  Wow!  I have yet to recover from shoes that light up at every step.  And now they twirl almost all by themselves.  I was impressed.

We talked about how they would work with her twirly skirt (which I haven’t seen but have heard about.)  And, as we said our “goodbyes” and “come-agains,” I thought about the part of teaching that I miss the most – kids!   Kids that are just about Linda’s age and are just beginning to understand the world before and beyond themselves.  Kids that have new pink twirly shoes and maybe a missing tooth or two.

I do hope lovely little Linda comes calling next time she visits Grandma Stephanie.

“I’s not a little boy…”

Wednesday, January 11th, 2012

Helen-Dale, Edwin, Willard - August 1914

     Now and then I wish I had a direct line to heaven so I could ask one of my forebears a question about the past – usually some mundane detail that no one ever bothered to talk or write about.  Seldom have I wished to make such call so that I could tell them something.  However, yesterday I was sorely and illogically (and probably irreverently) tempted to try!
     My mother was the youngest of seven children and close in age to her two just-older brothers, Edwin and Willard.  The three of them were born within three years of one another and they grew up, according to all of them, as “three peas in a pod.”  They played together, went to school together, had the same friends, and grew up sharing many of the same memories.
     As adults, when they were reminiscing about their adventures, they often laughed about the fact that, when she was very little, mom was often mistaken for a boy.  As their older sister Mona wrote in her recollections of their childhood:  All three were dressed alike in coveralls but Dale would become very indignant when some man would say “what a fine group of boys.”  She, in her baby voice loud and clear would reply: “I’s not a boy; I is a little gill!”
     This misunderstanding was perhaps compounded by the fact that she was called “Dale” – a name which could easily be a boy’s or a girl’s.  Her Christian name was actually Helen-Dale but the “Helen” was dropped early on to save confusion in the family since Mama’s name was also Helen.
     So, yesterday I was looking at census records for Oysterville for 1920.  Names were listed household-by-household and there, following the name Willard R., was the final name listed under head-of-household Espy, Harry A. –  the youngest child, my mother.  All the facts were right – her place of birth, Olympia; her age, eight; etc.  Only her name and relationship to her parents were wrong.  Allandale, son, declared the census!
     Understandable, of course.  Even the census taker, assuming she was a little boy had heard “Allandale” instead of “Helen-Dale” and had recorded it for posterity!  How my mother and her siblings would have laughed to hear about that!

Why did our chickens cross the road?

Monday, August 1st, 2011
Three Eggs!

     Day before yesterday was our friend Owen’s seventh birthday.  He had a party and went to a Mariners’ game with his family – his choice of how to spend his day.  It was perfect!  The Mariners even won for him.  But what Owen really wanted for his birthday was a chicken.
     This is the second year in a row that Owen has requested a chicken to no avail.  He lives in Seattle and they could probably have a chicken or two except that the family lifestyle right now isn’t really conducive to chicken farming.  Owen seems to ‘get that’ but it doesn’t change his annual birthday wish list.
     Fortunately for Owen, he visits Oysterville periodically and, when he does, he takes charge of our chickens.  The moment he and his family rolled into town yesterday, Owen headed right for the coop.  We didn’t see him for quite some time.
     The chickens were ‘free ranging’ in the yard and, when Owen’s mom went to check up on him he said, rather breathlessly, “Mom!  Did you know that chickens can run really fast!”  A telling statement!
     Our chickens aren’t used to young boys and so it wasn’t too long after Owen’s big brother (“Ill be 10 in less than two months) joined him to toss a softball back and forth that someone announced “Chickens in the road!”
     Nyel to the rescue – as in have you ever tried to herd chickens?  My first thought was that a gate had been left open, but the boys had been careful about that.  The chickens had found a gap between fence and house and had lost no opportunity in wiggling through.  They were headed across Sandridge Road and there was no question as to why.
     Nyel has decided – rather wisely, I think – to keep the girls cooped up for the next few days while we have exuberant young boys about.  Meanwhile, we are considering how we might grant Owen his birthday wish next year.  After all, every boy should have a chicken!

Summertime Memories

Thursday, July 29th, 2010
Camp Sherwood Forest at Leadbetter Point, c. 1930

     Summer brings not only visiting relatives and friends, but also strangers looking to fill in the gaps in their fading memories.  People stop me after Sunday Vespers asking about a boarding house (the Heckes Inn) that was here in their childhood or wondering whatever happened to the other Wachsmuth cabin on School Street where they once stayed.
     Yesterday I received a call from Jean at the Oysterville Store asking if I knew anything about a place called “Camp Willapa Bay out at Leadbetter Point.”
     “Well, kind of,” was my reply.  “It was called ‘Camp Sherwood Forest,’ it was before my time, and it was owned by Dorothy Elliot who also owned Camp Willapa at the bay end of Joe Johns Road.”
     At that point, Jean handed over the phone to a woman who, it turned out, had gone to Camp Willapa in 1947 or 1948 – two of the nine years that I also was attending ‘camp.’  I told her a bit about the location of the camp she went to and invited her to stop by our house; I wanted to give her a recent issue of the Sou’wester that I wrote – actually a double issue, devoted entirely to Dorothy Elliot’s camps.
     In those years that we both attended Camp Willapa, one of our overnight trips each summer was to Leadbetter Point where we always took time to explore the remains of the tree houses that had been built in 1926.  ‘Miss Elliot’ or ‘Chief’ as she was sometimes called, had begun a camp for girls in 1920.  It was located on bay front acreage she had purchased a little north of Nahcotta.  So successful was the camp that parents of the girls urged her to include their sons as well.
     Miss Elliot, a woman with rather strict Victorian principals, located Camp Sherwood Forest about ten miles north – well away from the girls camp.  Rather than the tent cabins provided for the girls, she had tree houses built for the boys and, in the early years the girls and boys actually got to trade camp sites for a night or two – no doubt in answer to the envious pleading of the girls.  Both the boys and the girls, however, agreed that the tree houses were a bit scary as they swayed not-always-so-gently in the wind while the tree branches creaked and groaned around them.
     After World War II, in deference to changing times, Camp Sherwood Forest moved out of the trees and was relocated adjacent to Camp Willapa.  The remains of the abandoned tree houses at Leadbetter were visible for decades.  In the seventies my mother was told in all seriousness by a relative newcomer to the peninsula that during WWII the Japanese had established a secret base at the Point and that they had lived in those houses in the trees.  Such is the stuff rumors are made of – especially if it happens to be the information provided to visitors asking questions!  YIKES!  

On Being Three

Monday, July 26th, 2010
Sydney with Cousins Wallace and Charles, 1938

      Danielle Wachsmuth turned three yesterday.  Danielle is the granddaughter of our neighbors Tucker and Carol Wachsmuth, and she visits Oysterville frequently.  News of her birthday set me to remembering…  I think my first clear memories, though few and far between, are of things that happened when I was about Danielle’s age.
     I wasn’t as lucky as she is to live within a few hours’ drive of Oysterville.  At that age, I lived in Boston and my first visit here was by train in 1938.  I was two and a half and I remember only the scary thrill of walking from one train car to another – the warm oily smell which greeted us when my mother opened the heavy door at the end of one car, the loud noise of the wheels on the tracks, and the scary few steps across the coupling to the door of the next car.
     In later years as my mother recalled the trip, she declared that I walked the entire way to the west coast.  I, apparently, wore her out wanting to walk back and forth and she was much relieved when, in Minneapolis, we picked up my cousins Wallace and Charles.  Wallace was thirteen and Charles was nine and they eagerly took over mom’s walking duties.  She said the conductor also took pity on the three of them and walked with me some of the time.
      From the few pictures of that summer (and the perhaps the next – no dates on them, of course!) I’m sure it was an idyllic visit from my viewpoint.  We went on picnics and outings with family and friends and there were lots of children about my age – Johnny and Ruthie Holway, Peter and Judy Heckes, Anne and Nancy Cannon.  Whatever blurred impressions I retain most certainly set the tone for my feelings about Oysterville.  I loved my time here then and I love it now.  I have no doubt that Danielle’s memories will be as wonderful!

Do you like butter?

Saturday, June 12th, 2010
Our Colorful Lawn

     Our lawn has gone to buttercups and clover and to dandelions and those tiny little daisies – all signs that half of our household team is down for the count right now and the lawn-mowing chores are on hold.  It reminds me of my childhood when my grandfather grew too old to tend to much more than his vegetable garden.  (I do have dim memories, though, of him cutting the grass with a scythe and of the graceful ‘dance’ he did as he worked his way across the expanse in front of the house.)
     But, foremost in my memories of this yard are the hours we played making daisy chains and picking buttercups to hold under one another’s chins.   The reflected yellow color was sure to elicit the pronouncement, “You like butter!”  No matter how often we performed this ‘true test,’ we were amazed and convinced, once again, of the magical qualities of prophecy contained in the little yellow blossoms.
     We hunted for hours among the clover looking for one with four leaves and, very occasionally, we were successful.  We knew then that our good luck would hold for the rest of the day – or at least until we found a penny to put in our shoe.  Sometimes we made dandelion chains but they were too easy – daisy chains were better.  And dandelions were best left to go to puffy seed balls that we could wish on and blow away.
     We’d look for just the right kind of grass – usually tall and easily seen – with a thick blade that we could put between our thumbs and blow to make a high, piercing whistle.  The little kids always thought we were so clever, but really it was easy.  And then there was sourgrass to chew and, if we were lucky, a nasturtium to suck the honey from or, later in the summer, their fat green seeds with their peppery taste to eat.
     I wonder if kids still while away the summer hours with such unsophisticated activities.  Or are our lawns so neatly trimmed and our gardens so carefully manicured that those simple discoveries are no longer possible?